More to Love…the Finale

I’ll admit it, this is the first ‘hook-up’ reality show I’ve been caught up in.  Is it because the women were all plus sized like me?  Probably. It was definitely refreshing to see gorgeous women with curves.  There were things I liked about the show and things I didn’t.

Let’s start with what irritated me…

1. What was Emme there for? Really?  I love the woman, and I think she’s been a marvelous role model for real women, but  there truly was no purpose for her on this show besides showing a successful plus sized woman.

2. Whining…especially in the earlier episodes.  Trust me, not all curvy chicks thinks that happens depends upon finding validation by finding a man to marry. Yes we want to find love. No we don’t think there is only one man out there that will find us attractive.

3. Malissa. Even the way she spelled her name bugged me. And I feel horrible because I know the producers of the show probably slanted it to make her appear cold and calculating. It’s entirely possible she was a warm, genuine curvy chick too. But all I could see was a cold, calculating ice princess.

What I liked about the show

1. Beautiful curvy women.  I sure hope America took notice that you don’t have to be a size 2 in order to be gorgeous.

2. Luke.  It was pretty obvious he honestly was attracted to the curves.  And even though at times it seemed like he was leading some of the girls along, it always seemed truly difficult for him to send someone home. He appeared to be a truly nice guy and yes, an attractive man. (Why is it big guys don’t have the same problems finding women to accept them?)

3. Tali. I know, I know…we saw what the producers of the show wanted us to see, but she was a strong, confident chubby chick.  Not only that, she was dealing with the difference in background as well. Yet she handled it all with grace and dignity. She was open about how difficult it was to deal with the competition, but when it came right down to it, it never seemed like it was about the competition with her.  She knew there was a possibility Luke would choose Malissa, yet she never spoke about it as if she were losing a competition. She also was/is a wonderful role model for girls, perhaps seeing more women like Tali will help young girls/women be confident in themselves for who they are, not what size they wear.  I really, really hope the Tali we saw on TV was for real.

4. The outcome.  Finally a guy that thought with his head (and hopefully his heart) instead of something else.  I LOVED Luke’s mother and her reactions to Malissa.  I thought, “Finally! Someone who sees through this chick other than me!”. Kudo’s to Luke’s mom! And kudo’s to Luke and Tali for being true to themselves, and being willing to tackle the background/religious differences. I hope the two of you truly have found love with one another.  Yeah, I know…sappy, hopeless romantic here.

I guess overall I can say, as a curvy chick myself, that I hope there will be more shows brave enough to portray real sized women as beautiful, sexy and desirable. Even though the show had it’s bad points I have to give it a huge ‘BRAVO’ for being brave enough to say, “Hey, let’s make a show with real sized women.”